Hi Vishali,

You have shared some provocative ideas. Studies indicate that couples who do not fight end up separating.

And, while you describe some good ground rules, I don't think you have gone deep enough into the subject really to help couples.

For example, recurring, bitter fights will tear a relationship apart. I think you're talking about having the courage to share authentic experience and genuine feelings.

And, after that kind of sharing has been accomplished, to end with resolution and connection.

However, many couples don't yet have the skills to accomplish the good feeling which makes the initial difference worthwhile.

And, I think there are more foundational principles than you've yet shared. For example, blaming and expressing deep anger toward a partner can end up creating an unresolved block in the relationship.

Sure, encouraging your partner to be honest and providing a safe listening space can be growth producing. Yet, basic guidelines exist for doing this which you haven't gone into.

Relationships bring up unresolved childhood issues which may have deep resonance. Many people are simply not prepared to deal with this kind of early trauma.

It is my belief that relationships always call for more Love.

Yet, the two people need to understand how to cultivate the continuing opportunities which arise in order that rather than promoting futility, the outcome becomes togetherness; and rather than tearing each other apart, mutual listening and trust come to serve as the baseline and foundation for the relationship.

With Love,

Jonathan : )